The reality is having successful relationships in friendship, work and romance don’t happen by accident. It’s easier to run a marathon than it is to have a successful relationship, and yet more people work out than study the stuff of intimacy.
I have a confession to make. I care more about winning than I do about people. It’s not true all the time, but it’s true a lot of the time. At some point in my youth I began believing that if I didn’t win, nobody would like me. This served me well, in some regards. I had a successful company and a lovely home and so on and so on. And yet something happened to me years ago that planted a seed of change in my heart.
In Scary Close, I tell the story of going to a therapeutic retreat center. Basically, emotional rehab. It’s a center in Tennessee where you get 9 months of therapy in seven days. And it’s intense. It’s a program capped at 40 people. And when you arrive, you turn in your cell phone, can’t give anybody your last name and aren’t allowed to tell anybody what you do for a living.
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