I have a confession to make. I care more about winning than I do about people. It’s not true all the time, but it’s true a lot of the time. At some point in my youth I began believing that if I didn’t win, nobody would like me. This served me well, in some regards. I had a successful company and a lovely home and so on and so on. And yet something happened to me years ago that planted a seed of change in my heart.
In Scary Close, I tell the story of going to a therapeutic retreat center. Basically, emotional rehab. It’s a center in Tennessee where you get 9 months of therapy in seven days. And it’s intense. It’s a program capped at 40 people. And when you arrive, you turn in your cell phone, can’t give anybody your last name and aren’t allowed to tell anybody what you do for a living.
For some, social media is a bullhorn for what they’re already doing—pretending to be people they really aren’t. It’s not just the religious. How many people do you follow whose pictures look like they’re coming back from the 1950’s, as though all the clothes and cars and hats came from another time? All captured by a smart phone invented last year.
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