My friend Bob Goff (@bobgoff) has a little saying he keeps close to his heart: Be Secretly Incredible. It’s something I think about nearly every day, but something I rarely follow through on. I put ten times the energy into being “publicly good” than I do into being “privately good.” But something in me is starting to change.
Maybe it happens as we get older. Maybe we start to realize how much our early adult years have been spent projecting an image rather than establishing character, and maybe I’m in that stage where looking back on that season makes be queasy. If I were being hard on myself, I’d accuse myself of being a con artist. But that’s too hard. The truth is we all want to be perceived as hard-working, good people because those are the people who get respect. But being a hard-working, good person is, well, hard work. And the true rewards come to those who establish that kind of character for real.
How much time do we spend talking about a cause vs working on behalf of a cause? How much time do we spend talking up our marriages vs loving our spouse? How much time do we spend talking about theology vs doing our theology? These are all questions I’m pondering, questions that might help me become “secretly incredible.”