Donald Miller

Sarcasm may have it’s occasional place, but people who are too often sarcastic are protecting themselves.

Not long ago I was talking with an older, wiser friend and when she asked me a difficult question, I made a joke. My friend laughed but then noted I often made jokes when it would be more appropriate and healthy to connect. She said I was definitely funny but she’d rather know the real me than to watch me hide. Ouch.

The truth is she was right. I was hiding. Sarcasm and joking around are great in moderation, but often what hides behind the cynical exterior is a heart that’s been hurt (if that last line made you search for a sarcastic comeback or a joke, you’re likely the person I’m talking to.)

So here’s a little experiment for you. If you’re the type to joke around a bit too much, take a break for the next 48 hours. When you’re tempted to tell a joke, don’t. Instead, move toward the people you are with. Ask them serious questions about their work, their relationships, their dreams. Connect on a real level rather than trying to entertain.

Your heart will thank you.

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