I Don’t Worship God by Singing. I Connect With Him Elsewhere.

I’ve a confession. I don’t connect with God by singing to Him. Not at all.

I know I’m nearly alone in this but it’s true. I was finally able to admit this recently when I attended a church service that had, perhaps, the most talented worship team I’ve ever heard. I loved the music. But I loved it more for the music than the worship. As far as connecting with God goes, I wasn’t feeling much of anything.

I used to feel guilty about this but to be honest, I experience an intimacy with God I consider strong and healthy.

It’s just that I don’t experience that intimacy in a traditional worship service. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of sermons I actually remember. So to be brutally honest, I don’t learn much about God hearing a sermon and I don’t connect with him by singing songs to him. So, like most men, a traditional church service can be somewhat long and difficult to get through.

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I’m fine with this, though. I’ve studied psychology and education reform long enough to know a traditional lecture isn’t for everybody. There’s an entire demographic of people who have to learn by doing, not by hearing. So you can lecture to them all day and they’re simply not going to get it.

Research suggest there are three learning styles, auditory (hearing) visual (seeing) and kinesthetic (doing) and I’m a kinesthetic learner. Of course churches have all kinds of ways for you to engage God including many kinesthetic opportunities including mission trips and so forth, but if you want to attend a “service” every Sunday, you best be an auditory learner. There’s not much out there for kinesthetic or visual learners.

Interestingly, I learn a great deal by teaching, which is interesting to me.

I learn by doing the very thing I don’t learn by hearing! My guess is because teaching is a kinesthetic discipline rather than an auditory discipline. But that’s a side note. Here’s the real question:

How do I find intimacy with God if not through a traditional church model?

The answer came to me recently and it was a freeing revelation. I connect with God by working. I literally feel an intimacy with God when I build my company. I know it sounds crazy, but I believe God gave me my mission and my team and I feel closest to him when I’ve got my hand on the plow. It’s thrilling and I couldn’t be more grateful he’s given me an outlet through which I can both serve and connect with him.

My friend Bob Goff says when we study somebody without getting to know them, it’s called stalking. Bob says Jesus is getting creeped out that we keep stalking him. He’d like us to bond with him in the doing.

So, do I attend church? Not often, to be honest.

Like I said, it’s not how I learn.

But I also believe the church is all around us, not to be confined by a specific tribe. (tweet this)

I’m fine with where I’ve landed and finally experiencing some forward momentum in my faith. I worship God every day through my work. It’s a blast.

So are you an auditory, visual or kinesthetic learner? And if visual or kinesthetic, how do you connect with God?

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Joseph Mwangi Macharia

Thanks Donald. I feel the same way. There are many ways to connect with good. It is lovely that you have found yours. I connect with Him when I am doing a good or philanthropic thing for somebody else who cannot repay me. I feel properly connected when I see the immeasurable and priceless joy in the eyes and actions of the recipient. Did Jesus not say that He will ask “what we did to that person who did not have food to eat,or that person who was in jail but had no one to visit him?”
Jesse Anthony

I find it interesting that when a professed Christian shares that he has been able to carry the message of the gospel with him beyond the church walls and experience and worship God within the world, that there is such upheaval.
If I can make a few points and ask a few questions in hopes to bring neutral ground:

1. ——————-The argument between meeting —————–
—————in a “Local Church” and meeting elsewhere ———-
I do think there is something real about community and gathering for a purpose. I believe this is more in our make up as God’s people than it is contingent on logistical scenarios.
EX: The church that starts in a living room and moves to a school or business building in a plaza has not worshipped differently or experienced God differently because of the location. The people and their intentions to pursue God excite (as opposed to mourn) the Spirit. Their focus was to start a church. And anyone who has started a church knows, you are starting a business as far as the world cares. With tax forms and name registration and meeting various codes and conditions.

–>It seems odd that God would only “allow” his presence and all of the other things that come with being a Christian to Christians that do it a certain way (Im not talking about Theology here I’m talking logistics.) and only grant a pass to those who are unable or in the process of making a church.
The difference, therefore, would be A.) the building and B.) the process/format. Otherwise what do we make about people who are in oppressed nations and worshipping without a full Bible or church, have no preacher to preach and no building? We can make the argument that finding God in the less likely places has more profound effects.

————————What does it mean to meet? ———————–
Does there need to be 2 or more? Does it have to be around the Bible and if so what parts?

There is absolutely value in church, it is great to have a place to go and make friends and grow with no problem. Few other things are like that in life. The hope has always been that living as a christian become the norm That neighbors no longer need to preach but the law be in their heart.
Psychologists even say that your community will influence you. So wouldnt it be better to experience Sunday Koinonia Mon-Fri? Arguably, most Christians do not act like Christians in the workplace let alone at home.
For someone to say that they have a job that they can worship God through and a community of people are in support of that is tremendous. How many people make a business as a known christian influencer and cary those principals into their job, website, and public image. Not many. IT seems to be all or none. Most will turn their product and its messaging into a Christian-specific product, which leaves no room for conversation or invitation to hearing truth but a “take it or leave it” attitude. Remember people flocked to Jesus. If people aren’t attracted to the message you’re giving test it and reevaluate it, because you might be tainting it. Most who are “offended” by the message are the legalistic christians, the Pharisees that Jesus provoked.

What does it look like for someone who owns a marketing business to minister to the world? It kinds looks like someone who would put a blog on his webpage and profess his belief to millions of people and people who are in powerful positions might I add.

He did not say that they don’t meet or discuss the bible. He is around teachings and teachers within his community (if you follow his books and other projects)
not only professes themselves to be a Christian, but has influenced millions in seeing church and Christ differently (arguably creating a sub-genre of christian books that helped propel church and make the methods culturally relevant