Take one minute to think of all the people you care about. Now ask yourself: why do you care about these precious friends?
Chances are it’s because they have walked with you through something hard.
They’ve brought you an ice cream cone when you were down. They’ve shared with you their wisdom when you were lost. They cried with you but didn’t let you quit. When you were sinking deep into life’s problems, they were a life raft.
And you love them now for being just what you needed.
Now take a minute to think about what life would be like if nothing ever changed for you.
Nothing bad ever happened. Or good really. Life just stayed the same.
Would you have ever had the opportunity to care about those people? No. You wouldn’t. Because change creates community. Change drives us to carry each other’s burdens, share our stories and call up a friend and say, “I’m a wreck. Can you bring over some Chipotle and ice cream tonight? I need to talk.”
Change is not a negative.
It is an opportunity grow as an individual and with each other. Here are three reasons why.
1. Change Forces Communication
We’ve all experienced a change and had to ask someone for their help or opinion with it. A spouse, friend, sibling, or employee. We need their feedback, thoughts and a sounding board for what’s happening in our lives. This communication would have never occurred if something wouldn’t have shifted. As you reach out to people for help, realize the next person who you call may become your new best friend or mentor.
2. Change Creates Bigger Lives And New Friends.
If you put a fish in a tank, it will only grow as big as it’s boundaries will let it. For a bigger fish, you need a bigger tank. Change drops us into the bigger ponds of life. New environments force us out of our comfort zones and creates a greater dependency on others. Think about your first day at High School. New environment. Lots of change. What was the first thing you did? Look for your buddy. I know I did.
3. Readjustment Causes Reevaluation
Change creates mile markers in your life. You look back on that year in college or your first baby and you remember what you were like. And how you’re different now. It adds spice and sizzle to our lives. We need these pivotal moments in our lives to know who we were, who we are, and who we want to be. We also identified clearly who are real friends were. Those who stuck close to us in our storms and celebrated with us at the mountaintops are our real friends. The rest, just acquaintances.