I’ve a friend who is a bit dramatic. Well, not a friend, exactly, but somebody I have to deal with. I won’t get into it. Ever since I met this person their default mode has been drama.
If I don’t do something about that noise, my car was going to break down…If I don’t call this person right away I’ll lose this great opportunity…If I don’t leave my faucet running my pipes will freeze…and on and on.
To be honest, I fell for it the first few times.
Suddenly I was worried about things I never worried about before. I felt anxious and tense and it bothered me. So I decided to count the costs a bit.
What if my car broke down? Well, I guess I’d get it fixed. And what if my pipes broke? Well, I guess I’d call a plumber. But none of that happened. I didn’t call the friend because we all miss opportunities all the time and it didn’t seem like an opportunity I was really interested in anyway. I didn’t let a faucet drip and my pipes didn’t freeze.
My car still makes a slight noise that I may or may not have a mechanic look at when I have time.
Everything is the same as it was before.
I learned something from this interaction, though. I learned some people live a life of unnecessary drama. Mostly, I think people live in drama to pull attention into themselves. The sad thing about this, though, is they’re pulling attention into themselves at the cost of your peace and sanity.
It’s rather selfish, isn’t it?
These days, I rather enjoy ignoring all the drama.
I mean it. I can hardly stand to watch cable news anymore.
I have a friend who does little but complain about the direction the country is going, how we’re becoming communists and slaves to the government. I wonder what it’s costing his physical health to worry all the time like that?
If our taxes get raised, it would cost him about $500 more per year. But what will a heart attack cost him? Or all the relationships he’s losing because people get tired of all the bitter tribal banter?
Lately I like it when I get the dramatic text baiting me into a life of worry because I no longer buy into it. Ignoring the drama makes me feel superior and smart, to be honest. And maybe that’s selfish but it’s great for my self esteem. What’s the worse that could happen, after all? And if the worst does happen, can’t I just fix it?
I refuse to worry about hypothetical situations anymore.
So the choice became clear:
And even if it does, there’s rarely a reason for drama anyway. If the pipes burst I will turn off the water to the house and call a plumber. If I miss an opportunity I can catch the next one. If my car breaks down I can call a tow truck. What’s so dramatic about any of that? That’s just life.
All that to say, lets choose peace. Not drama.