Judging Others Is Making You Unhappy

Al Andrews

My wife Nita and I were finally buckled into our seats on a plane en route to the beach for a week of quiet and rest. It had been a long year, full of changes. Among those changes—we’d packed up our house, renovated it for a sale, bought a new house in a new town, […]

Why It’s Often Better to Say Less

Al Andrews

I am finding that the older I get, the less I need to say.

It’s not that I don’t have thoughts about things. I have plenty of them. But these days as I edge toward my sixth decade, many of those thoughts simply do not need to be expressed. Most of my […]

The Danger of Bringing Ego Into Politics

Al Andrews

It was an ordinary Saturday morning in D.C. I’d had breakfast earlier with friends who worked on the Hill and was cleaning up my apartment. Music was playing on the radio. Though the time I’m talking about was in the 1980s, it seems like it was yesterday. About 12:30 PM, I got a call on […]

What God Sees When He Looks At You

Al Andrews

When I was 25 years old, I paid $15,000 for my first house. They wanted $20,000, but willingly took my offer. If you saw the house, you’d know why I got a deal. Quite a few window panes were broken out, the kitchen had only a sink (no cabinets), and the floor was lower in […]

A Surprising Way to Discover the Secret of Who You Are

Al Andrews

There’s a great quote from Frederick Buechner about tears and it goes like this: Whenever you find tears in your eyes, especially unexpected tears, it is well to pay the closest attention. They are not only telling you something about the secret of who you are, but more often than not God is speaking to […]

How I Learned Who Really Belongs

Al Andrews

I have a confession to make that may make some of you dismiss me as having neither taste nor class. Judge me if you will: I like the Three Stooges. There. I said it. When Larry hits Curly on the head with a sledgehammer and it makes a metal clanking noise, I think it’s hilarious. […]

Are Your Mistakes On Display?

Al Andrews

I don’t watch a lot of baseball. But when the World Series comes around, I watch a game or two. That way when people are talking about it in the line at Starbucks, I can say something like, “How ‘bout them Mets?” My hope is they don’t try to engage in conversation about it and […]

An Essential Step to Becoming A More Positive Thinker and Doer

Al Andrews

It was my son Hunter’s first soccer game of the season. And like most youth soccer games, the five-year-old boys, with shirts down to their knees, looked like a swarm of bees, oblivious to the coach’s instructions to “spread out.” Still, they managed to get the ball up and down the field, and all but a few ‘intense’ parents had a great Saturday morning.

One day, the coach put Hunter in as the goalie. Inexperienced at the position, he was eager to put on the special goalie outfit (complete with a brightly colored shirt and gloves). Soon he was standing there in all of his splendor. When the first ball went past him, I didn’t think much about it. After all, I’ve seen professionals miss a ball or two. After the 6th ball hit the net behind him, I began to get worried.

When the opposing team’s score hit the two-figure mark, I began to sweat. The competitive parents began whispering […]

What I Learned About Parenting When My Sons Left the Nest

Al Andrews

This is the season that sons and daughters, after graduating from high school, are moving out of the house. Some are going to work, and others are going to college. But they are leaving the place that has been their home, their nest, for 18 years. A few weeks ago, my wife and I delivered […]

Why Your Anxiety is Probably Unwarranted

Al Andrews

I used to have a phobia. Any time a warning light began to blink on the dashboard of my car, a low black cloud descended upon me and I began to sink into anxiety and depression. My mind filled with worst-case scenarios, emptying my bank account.

There was a time in my life (let’s just call it my Denial Decade) when I would put a piece of black tape over the blinking light so I wouldn’t have to deal with it.

The reason for all this anxiety was this:

I knew absolutely nothing about anything that resides under the hood of a car. (For years I thought a McPherson Strut was some kind of Irish dance.) Thus, whenever I took my car in for repairs, I had this look on my face […]

Something To Remember When Social Media Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself

Al Andrews

I’m not what you would call a social media pro. I am to all things social media what a flip phone is to an iPhone. While I do have a Facebook account, I rarely look at it. My colleagues at my office check it and tell me if there is something I need to know. […]