Do You Believe You’re Good at Relationships?

Donald Miller

I’ve had a couple friends speak into my life who changed it dramatically. Both of them told me something on the same theme: “Don, you are good at relationships.” At the time, I thought nothing could be further from the truth. I was going through a painful breakup in which I’d made enormous mistakes. I was terrible at relationships.

Today, though, I no longer believe this is true. And partly, I don’t believe it’s true because I had friends around me who refused to see me in black and white or good vs evil terms. They saw my…

My 6 Tips for Surviving Criticism

Donald Miller

If you share yourself with the world you’re going to be criticized. The world may seem like a nice, safe, warm place, but as soon as you put yourself out there’s a good chance you’ll be a target for criticism. If you’re not careful, you’ll start feeling like a character in The Lord of the Flies. So how do you survive it? How do you keep putting yourself out there?

Are You Playing the Victim to Manipulate Others?

Donald Miller

To some degree, every one of us has been a victim.

We were either neglected by our parents, picked on at school or ripped off in a business deal later in life. When we are healthy, we can learn from those experiences, forgive and move on. But when we’re not, we tend to re-victimize ourselves over and over.

Your Growth May Threaten Others, Grow Anyway

Donald Miller

Every story is about one thing, the arc of the character. What I mean by that is unless the hero changes, you’ve got no story. They have to be cowardly at the beginning and brave at the end, or selfish at the beginning and altruistic at the end. Something in the character has to change or the audience loses interest.

The Single Most Powerful Question You Can Ask

Donald Miller

When novelists sit down to write a narrative, there is a question they ask themselves in order to create exciting and meaningful stories, and that same question can also create a more exciting and meaningful life. That question is: “What if?”

J.R.R. Tolkien once asked the question “What if” there existed a place called Middle Earth, and “What if” Middle Earth were under threat? Every good story begins with some form of this question, and so does every life.

When Writing a Book, Start With Your Own Story

Donald Miller

If you want to write a book about physics, you’ll have to know a lot about physics. And the same goes for psychology and botany. But to write a humane book, be it fiction or memoir, all you really need to know is your own story.

We read books for different reasons, sometimes to learn a craft or for a perspective on current events, but most of the…

Three Things You Can Do to Improve Your Willpower

Donald Miller

Recently I read (listened to on audio) Willpower by Roy Baumeister and John Tierney and took great interest in their findings about how willpower actually works. Citing study after study (perhaps too many for an otherwise enjoyable read) Baumeister and Tierney argue willpower actually comes from the muscle of the mind and that it can be strengthened.

My Podcast is Out

Donald Miller

I’ve been working behind the scenes for a year on something so special that it drove me crazy not to talk about it. I NOW HAVE A PODCAST! The podcast is called Building a Story Brand and it’s all about standing out in a sea of noise. In the first season, I talk with Dave […]

Getting Famous Is Not How You Will Change The World

Donald Miller

Since I was a kid I knew what I wanted to do: I wanted to change the world. I didn’t know how, and honestly I didn’t know why, but I wanted to have an impact.

That desire evolved over the years from an identity struggle where, though I would never have admitted it, I really just wanted to be known and important, to a more sincere desire to see peoples lives changed for the better. I’d say I’m still experiencing that evolution. It will always be a percentage game. None of us are pure in our motives. But we keep working all the same.

Two Lists I Make Every Morning

Donald Miller

Every working day I fill out a Storyline Productivity Schedule and one of the things it disciplines me to do is to make two lists. The first is a list called “If I Could Live Today Over Again I’d” and the other is a list of “Things I Get to Enjoy Today”

The things I write on those lists don’t come naturally. I’m forced to sit and […]

How I Used Twitter to Write a Book

Donald Miller

Writing books is a no-feedback game. Certainly you can ask friends to review your work, but that’s dangerous. The truth is you know when it’s good and you know when it’s not and if you’re asking for opinions you’re likely not doing your best work.