A friend of my sister’s once told her you must grieve everything. Anytime you have to say goodbye to something, someone or some place, grieve it. When you’re in a transitional phase in life, this can mean a lot of goodbyes. To things like: college, your first job, your apartment, your hometown, another town, another job and before after and in between, relationships. People are in and out of your life before you can blink and get their phone number.
Too often, we live our lives rejoicing only in the destination. We mark the major accomplishments as the milestones that define our lives: a graduation, a new job, a wedding, a move, or overcoming a tragedy. We look back with fondness on these significant events. As a result, we desperately look forward to the next: the accomplishment of a life goal, a significant desired award, a major life transition, a big promotion, or simply emerging from one of life’s dark valleys triumphant.
Last year, I caught my favorite poet Billy Collins at a reading in San Diego. In the interview section of the evening, Dean Nelson from Point Loma University asked him to share some advice he gives to his poetry students. Without having to think about it, Collins said, “Dare to be clear.”
Why You Settle For Less When You Know There’s Better
The Problem With Black-And-White Thinking
What You Miss When You’re Afraid Of Messing Up
Finish That Thing You Need To Write (Without A Cabin)
My Favorite Tweet Ever
What Are You Telling Yourself That Isn’t True?
Keep Your Phone From Getting In The Way Of Your Work
Kick Your Negative Self Talk To The Curb