I used to think people liked compliments and so I gave them compliments. And it was true. People liked them. But the older I’ve become and perhaps the more healthy I’ve become spiritually and emotionally, the more I’ve realized my compliments weren’t given in altruism. I’d have to say, without knowing it, I really just used compliments in order to make myself more likeable. It’s true if you are kind to people they think you’re pretty great. But the end of that is still about me.
So if you’re reading this, you’re probably a lot like me. You want to write, maybe dream of launching a blog or completing a book, but you don’t have the liberty to write for a living – at least not yet. Below are the top nine tips, ideas, and concepts that have helped me get going, complete projects, build a writing structure, and keep momentum.
Have you ever tried to quit a bad habit but went right back after the first relapse? Let’s say you’re quitting caffeine, then a bleary day hits and you have that one cup of coffee, only to go right back to the old habit. It’s almost as though that first slip up lets go the flood. I used to be all or nothing about stuff like this but I recently had a conversation with Bill Lokey who helped me understand that relapses are actually part of the process of changing a behavior.